How To Flirt With A Shy Guy

How to flirt with a shy guy

Shy guys aren’t as forward and bold as fearless guys. A shy guy may take weeks or months to open up with a new person and even then won’t be able to be unabashedly flirtatious. If you’re wondering how to flirt with a shy guy, we have some effective and tied and tested tips and suggestions for you. Here’s everything you need to know:

Be A Little Guarded When Interacting With Him

It’s hard enough for a shy guy to interact with a woman and if you’re going to come across as strong, confident and blunt, he may not be able to handle it. You need to pretend to be a little shy yourself. Act coy when interacting with him at first. When he sees that slightly guarded side to you, he will be much more at ease and will be able to talk to you freely.

Avoid Interacting With Him In Large Groups

Shy guys are extremely conscious and find it very hard to flirt or talk to a woman publicly. If you start flirting with him in front of his friends, he may not react the way you want him to and may go further into his shell. You need to catch him alone and off guard in order to flirt with him. When he is alone he will be far more comfortable talking to you as opposed to talking to you while his friends are around.

Get Him To Help You Out With Something

Guys who are shy are usually extremely kind and helpful. If you’re not sure about how he is going to react to your flirting, you can probably start of by asking him to help you out with something. While he is getting the job done for you, flirt a little with him so that he can get the idea that you’re interested.

Avoid Aggression White You Flirt

Flirting in an aggressive manner maybe suitable for some guys, but when it comes to a shy guy, he won’t be able to handle it. Aggressive flirting will scare away the shy guy and may end up backfiring on you. You need to flirt in a very subtle manner when dealing with a shy guy. Touch his arm gently when chatting with him, smile at him when you see him staring at you from the other side of the room and so on.

Don’t Make The Mistake Of Teasing Him

We have established that a shy guy is obviously very self conscious. If you’re going to use the teasing method when you flirt with him, it’s going to end in disaster because he will end up feeling even shyer than he normally is. Until you get to him well enough to tease him, it’s best that you flirt with him subtly and in a gentler manner.

Don’t Bombard Him With Your Strongly Flirtatious Attitude

You can’t be flirting all the time with a shy guy. Shy guys cannot handle being the centre of attention  and if you’re going to flirt with him each and every time you see him, he is probably going to end up hiding from you. Flirt with him occasionally and give him the chance to build the courage to flirt back. Once he has become comfortable with you, you can flirt with him more frequently without scaring him away.

Talk To Him About Things That Interest Him

You need to talk to him about the things that interest him in order to get him to slowly open up. If you know he is interested in technology or the stock market, read up about these topics and bring them up when conversing with him. When a shy guy gets the opportunity to talk about the things that interest him, he will open up and be able to chat at length. You can be a little flirtatious when talking to him his likes and interests.

Text Flirt With Him

Flirting directly to the face of a shy guy may cause him to go into a shell. If you want him to be at ease and you want him to react to your flirtation, you need to flirt with him on a more private platform. Flirt with him a little bit over text messages. When you flirt with him over text messages, he will be able to take his time to respond without getting absolutely slammed against a wall. If he is interested in you he will probably flirt back comfortably over texts and the next time he meets you will be able to flirt with you face to face too.

Don’t Make Him Feel Intimidated

If you make a shy guy feel intimidated with your overpowering personality, he will automatically react negatively and avoid you. Shy guys cannot handle women who come across as strong, aggressive and bold. You can slowly portray your unabashed boldness once he has been receptive to your subtle flirting and has responded back positively. If you start showing him your fearless nature at first only, he may not even want to flirt back with you and it may backfire on you.

Shy guys are really nice guys and getting into a relationship with one will prove to be extremely beneficial for you. However, to get a shy guy on your team can be tricky. The littlest bit of aggression from your end and you will have him running for the hills. Be smart and practical when you flirt with him. Let him feel comfortable and make sure he isn’t embarrassed. Go easy on him so that he gets the chance to take it all in and respond back to your hints. Once you have got his attention, you can move forward in a more confident and fearless manner.

Katie Holmes

Article written by Katie Holmes

Katie Holmes is a relationship expert. She loves to write about her experiences that she derives from her own life and her interactions with others. After years of research, Katie decided to put together all her expertise on this blog so she can help people improvise in their relationship with others.