Most people get so comfortable in their relationship that they don’t realize when it begins to spiral downwards. If you’re worried that your relationship is headed towards disaster, here are 11 unhappy relationship signs you need to watch out for:
Loneliness Consumes You
There are often times when you may feel lonely even though you’re in a relationship. You feel a deep and hurting emptiness within. If you’re feeling lonely even though you have a partner in your life, that’s a red signal right there. A healthy relationship should make you feel happy and content, not lonely and depressed.
You Find Emotional Support In Others
If you’re no longer able to get the emotional support that you require from your partner and you need to turn to friends and family for emotional support, then what’s the point of having a partner in your life? Being in a healthy relationship is about having someone who you can bank on when you’re feeling low and de-motivated. If you’re getting that from outside, you may as well not be in the relationship.
Your Partner Is Constantly Putting You Down
Do you find that your partner is constantly putting you down or insulting you for having an opinion? That’s a sign of an unhappy and toxic relationship. A healthy relationship is about supporting, encouraging and respecting each other. If you’re only getting put down to the point that you lose your confidence, it’s time to consider the quality and future potential of the relationship you’re in.
Making A Fight Out Of Everything
Are you and your partner constantly fighting? Is it impossible for the both of you to have a normal conversation without getting into a heated argument or fight? That’s a warning sign that your relationship is turning sour. While having occasional fights is healthy for your relationship, if everything is turning into a fight, you might just need to take a break from each other.
You’re Constantly Feeling Insecure
A good man will make you feel secure and happy in the relationship. If you find yourself constantly speculating about your man’s whereabouts or you find that there is no stability and security in your relationship; that is a sign of an unhappy and unhealthy relationship.
He Never Has Any Time For You
If you’re constantly fighting to get attention and time from your partner, your relationship is headed to disaster. A good man will drop all his other commitments when he sees that you need him. You need to be on top of his priority list and not just someone who keeps his bed warm at night. If your man doesn’t have the decency and sense to make sure that he is there for you when you need him, then there’s no point in you being with him.
Belittling Your Success
A healthy relationship involves both partners encouraging each other’s success and not belittling it. If you have recently got a job promotion or you have closed a big business deal and he can’t make you feel good about it, then that’s a sign you need to watch out for. A good man will always show you how proud he is of your accomplishments instead of putting you down or belittling you for them.
You Feel No Physical Attraction Towards Him Anymore
While the fireworks that you once felt may fade, a little bit of physical attraction will always remain. If you find that you have absolutely no physical attraction towards your man and that sex has only become a chore, your relationship has probably run its course.
He Doesn’t Ever Want To Do Anything That You Enjoy
Does he have the upper hand in the relationship? Is he the one who always makes all the plans and decisions without taking your opinion into consideration? Well, then you definitely have a problem right there. A healthy relationship is about balancing out the things both of you enjoy and indulging in each other’s interests. If only one person is taking all the calls, then there’s no point in being in such a submissive relationship.
Constant Lies Are Being Floated Around
Do you find that your partner is constantly lying? Have you caught him red handed on countless occasions and let it go each time just because he has sworn to never lie again? Once a liar, always a liar. A happy relationship is based on trust and honesty. If you’re going to be with a man who’s constantly lying to you and breaking your trust, you may as well not be with him.
Your Relationship Has Become An Abusive One
Abuse in any relationship is unacceptable. Whether it’s verbal abuse, physical abuse or emotional abuse, you cannot be in a relationship where either one of you is abusing each other. A happy relationship is where you can discuss your differences in a calm and collected way. If you or your partner resorting to abuse just to prove your point, you have an issue right there. Take some time off and figure out where you stand because if you’re ready to go through life being abusive or being abused, you clearly don’t respect yourself and nor do you have a happy relationship.
There you have it, eleven points that will make you realize how toxic and unhappy your relationship has become and the fact that you’re probably still sticking around with your partner only because you’re comfortable with each other. You need to love and respect yourself enough to distinguish between a happy and unhappy relationship. If you’re going to continue with a relationship that’s making you miserable, you will only end up damaging yourself mentally, emotionally and physically. You deserve as much love and happiness as the next person. Don’t get stuck in an unhappy and destabilizing relationship.