A failing relationship can be mentally and emotionally exhausting. If you have been with your partner for years on end and are suddenly witnessing major changes in the relationship, you will probably begin to panic and worry that your relationship may have run its course. To ease your distraught mind, you can look out for these signals and signs your relationship is failing:
Lack Of Communication Between Both Partners
If your partner was the one person with whom you could share everything, but now has suddenly become the last person you will run to in troubled times, this indicates that you can no longer communicate openly and freely with him or her. Lack of communication in any relationship is a sign of disaster. If you can’t have a decent conversation with your partner and if every conversation only ends up in a fight or argument, there’s a red signal for you right there.
Lack Of Affection Towards Each Other
If at one point of time you and your partner were known as the perfect couple and were the envy of every person in town, but now are constantly at each other’s necks, this is a sign that your relationship is failing. If you have pretty much forgotten how to be kind, caring and affectionate towards each other, you need to understand and come to terms with the fact that the relationship is spiraling towards a dead end. Lack of affection in any relationship is never a good thing.
Dwindling Sex Life
If you find that your sex life has come to an abrupt end, or that sex has just become a chore and task for the both of you, there’s a sign that your relationship might be failing. While the sex life in any relationship may not be as fiery as it was in the beginning, any healthy relationship will still have that little spark when it comes to the physical ways of displaying love. Look out for a dwindling or non-existent sex life to know that your relationship is failing or is on the road to failure.
Different Ideas Of Fun
At the beginning of your relationship, you and your partner both may have taken efforts to indulge in what the other thought was fun. However, if your list of fun and your partner’s list of fun are completely different now and neither of you make an effort to do what the other wants, your relationship may just be in a pretty problematic place. If you’re unable to do things together and you no longer do anything fun with your partner, you need to come to terms with the fact that your relationship is failing.
You’re Constantly Having Awful Fights And Disagreements
Do you find that you and your partner are constantly at each other’s necks? Are you both having the same fights and arguments over and over again without any kind of resolve? Is there verbal or physical abuse of any kind in your relationship? If any or all of these questions have been answered to with a yes, then that’s a red signal right there. An occasional fight or disagreement in every relationship is healthy. However, if you find that you’re constantly at war with each other, your relationship is sinking.
Getting Emotional Support From Other People
Maybe at some point in time during the course of your relationship, you completely depended on your partner for emotional support. However, if now neither of you get that emotional support that you need from each other and you’re both going outside and to other people for emotional support, your relationship is coming to an end or it’s failing miserably. In order for a relationship to work well, you and your partner need to be each other’s strength. If you can’t rely on each other for support, then you may as well not be together.
Disrespect And Dismissive Attitude
Are you and your partner so fed up with the fights that you have both come to the point of disrespecting each other? Well, that’s a very bad sign in any relationship. If you won’t think twice before being disrespectful to your partner, or you’re openly being dismissive of each other publicly, then you may as well come to terms with the fact that your relationship is failing. Respect towards each other is one of the main foundations of any relationship. If you can’t respect the man or woman you’re with, how can you love them?
Lack Of Trust
Do you no longer trust your partner with anything? Do you have major trust issues with each other? Do you constantly doubt each other? Well, lack of trust is the first crack in the foundation of any relationship. If you’re constantly spying on your partner to see what he is up to, or he is constantly fighting with you because he doubts your whereabouts and behavioural patterns, then your relationship is failing and may even come to an abrupt and ugly end. If any relationship needs to work, it needs to work on the foundation of trust and respect.
If you have noticed several of these signs in your relationship and you’re consistently fighting with your partner, you need to understand that your relationship may have run its course. One saving grace to a failing relationship maybe getting couple’s counselling from a professional. Getting a proper counsellor to guide you through your differences may just end up saving your relationship and put you back in the loving place where you first started off. Don’t give up hope as every cloud has a silver lining. Look out for the signs and signals and work as a couple towards fixing them.